THE GRIEF RECOVERY METHOD©
The Action Program for
Moving Beyond Loss
Grief -- The Definition
Simply defined, grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind. While we never compare losses, any list would include death and divorce as obvious painful losses. Our list also includes many others; retirement, moving, pet loss, financial and health issues, among them. The range of emotions associated with grief is as varied as there are people and personalities. There is no list of feelings that would adequately describe one person’s emotions, much less an entire society. Grief is individual and unique. As every relationship is unique, so are the feelings and thoughts each person will have about the rela¬tionship that has been altered by death, divorce, or for other reasons.
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual. The majority of incorrect ideas about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths which are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid. The misinformation is best described in the following:
• Time Heals All Wounds
• Grieve Alone
• Be Strong
• Don’t Feel Bad
• Replace the Loss
• Keep Busy
Just looking at the myth that “time heals” creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who had waited 10, 20, 30, and 40 years, and still didn’t feel better. And, we know that they would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had compounded the pain. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.
There are 43 losses which can produce the range of emotions we call grief. The long list includes:
• Divorce or the End of a Relationship
• Loss of Health
• Major Financial Changes
• Moving and many others
Grief is normal and natural but many of the ideas we have been taught about dealing with grief are not helpful.
Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all of the undelivered communications that accrue in relationships. We are all advised to “Let Go,” and “Move On,” after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do that if we knew how.Completion of pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion. Before taking the actions to complete, it is im¬portant to look at and often dismiss some of the ideas or myths that we have tried to use with loss, but are not working.
Safety and Correct Actions
The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program provides the correct action choices that help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. It is a 10- to-12-week program which creates a safe environment in which to look at old beliefs about dealing with loss; to look at the losses that have affected your life; and to take new actions which lead to completion of the pain attached to one of those losses.
The Grief Recovery Handbook - The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses, including Health, Career, & Faith (released by HarperCollins in 2009) and an accompanying format written by John W. James and Russell Friedman (founders of The Grief Recovery Institute®) are used as texts for the Outreach Program.
Commitment and Attendance
The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program is not an occasional, drop-in group. It is a structured process to help you release the pain of grief and loss, not just talk about the pain or your losses.
For the safety and success of all participants, commitment and attendance are essential. The fee for the program includes a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook. Call for info about Group and Individual Program timeframes and fees. New Group Programs begin every 3 months.
The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program is led by Grief Recovery Specialist BARBARA SCHIFFMAN, who has been personally trained and certified by the founders of The Grief Recovery Institute®. To ensure your success within this program, Barbara has direct access to the founders of the Institute.
Moving Beyond Loss
If you have experienced one or more losses and wish to move beyond the pain, this program offers the probability of a richer and more rewarding life.
What participants are saying:
"Barbara Schiffman offers a warm and nurturing environment as she guides her clients through the grieving process. What I loved most about working with her was that each week there was a step by step plan that made sense and addressed all the different aspects of grieving. The 12 weeks of support sessions concluded with a sense of completion, which I felt as a deep sense of relief. Barbara’s guidance and compassion made her program a very healing experience."-- Susan S, LA
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